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“Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul” ~Samuel Ullman
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I knew I was a grown up when…

20’s

I could stay out all night and go to work the following day unscathed

Random sex was considered a rite of passage

I could buy my own booze and cigarettes

I hosted parties in my own apartment (filled with hand-me-down furniture from mom)

I used drugs to escape my flaws

30’s

Tried to stay out all night but called I sick to work the following day

I moved far away from my hometown

I got my own place – with all my own furniture

I fell in love with the idea of who he wanted me to be

Dusting off my dreams was a rite of passage

40’s

The thought of staying out all night makes me sleepy

I look at old photos and can’t believe I smoked cigarettes

Fell in love with the person, not the idea of Love

I am taking action to attain my dreams – realizing no one is going to do this for me

A clean bill of health from my doctor is a rite of passage

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So how about you?
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Finish the sentence: I knew I was a grown up when…
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32 comments

  1. I knew I was a grownup the first time they put that squalling little bundle of baby in my arms after I'd labored 22 hours to bring her into this world. To have another soul's life in my hands, mine, to shape into the person I wished for the universe, it was a mind-boggling, instantaneous transformation from hapless girl to womanhood. Still, there are days, more than others, when I wonder if I'll ever feel like a grown-up.

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  2. @Todd – Taxes. Yup. That'll do it. @Joann – I love the way you describe that. I am not blessed to have my own children, but do appreciate life-changing experience I imagine it to be. I agree with you about sometimes wondering if I ever feel like one. In many ways, I am still so very much a child. A child who pays taxes!

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  3. great post! i still have a long ways to go, but i already like the person i am at 26 way much more than the person i was at 20. i used to be scared of my 30's, but now i think they're going to rock and so on.

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  4. Guuuuuurl… your 30's will ROCK. I truly love getting older. I earn every year and wear it like a badge of honor. I never thought I'd say that — but at 41, I am so happy to just "BE". What I love about getting older is the friendships. My girlfriends are my heart – they've been my sisters for over 20 years now. Something to cherish, for sure.

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  5. I knew I was a grownup when… When? Oh, when will I know if I am a grownup? I think I do a pretty darn good job of pretending. I mean I carry my own load. But I don't really want to be a grownup… yet! I guess when I realized that I was a grownup at that point when just because I felt like doing something and was in a position to do it didn't mean that it was a given that I would. There were other things to take into consideration.

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  6. That's just the thing. I'm not sure I am yet. I have all the trappings of it but it still doesn't feel real. 26 and I feel like I am just coming into my own. I love my life and everything I can do and my singularity and freedom. I'm not sure I will ever get to that "I knew I was grown up when" point. I hope so, but I don't know.

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  7. @Midnitefryfly – Hahaha! Love it! @Christopher – A perect comment. So true….@IT – Ahhh yes, having options and deciding things on our own. One of the many perks of being a grown up. :)@Boomka – I remember exactly what you are talking about. Trust me, you will say / do / overcome / live through experience / write — something that will make you say "wow. I am a grown up". It's a weird feeling, even now at 41. 🙂

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  8. Holy shit I was a burnout from pot smoking from mu middle teens to about age 30, finally I smartened up. Can't believe how much life passed me by while I was in the clouds…Secretia

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  9. ooh,ooh..I like this type of game!I knew I was grown-up when…when..when..uh…..um..To be honest with you, I don't think I will EVER grow the fuck UP!

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  10. I knew I was a grownup when I got married. The first time. I REALLY knew I was a grownup when I got divorced for the first time, ten years and four kids later. Heh.I've been perusing your blog. You write well. Best of luck to you with your memoir. I feel like you're going to find a great audience for it.

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  11. …when at age 17 I was doing my mom's income taxes. We were poor, lived on less than $10,000 a year, and she'd never done them on her own. Having divorced my father who always took care of the bills and taxes, I had to step up. Wow, this was enlightening.

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  12. I knew I was a grownup whenIt was a pivotal moment and I really remember it!20s, having lunch with buds, I'm in the ladies, washing my hands, combing my hair, looking at myself and it just HIT ME! I was a grownup. Bam.Christine! I hadn't thought of that in a long time.

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  13. Wow these are all great. Isn't is true – it really IS an eye opener!?!Every time I pay my bills there is a part of me that thinks "uh, bills", but there is that other part that feels all grown up. It's a good feeling. Also, when my kiddos (friends kids) come to me in the middle of the night when I am baby siting) because they had a bad dream…. I tuck them back in and hold them close… tell them I am not going anywhere; that makes me feel like a grown up! 🙂

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