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If you are like me, getting a compliment can make your day. Who doesn’t love it when they hear that color looks great on you, I love your shoes, or you’re a great cook?

For some of us, taking a compliment is not as easy as one may think. Emotional baggage and self deprecating thoughts are fun.

I am learning to take a compliment after years of thinking I was never enough. You know the feeling – when you are a teenager and feel like you are not pretty enough… strong enough… smart enough. Some of us never shake that off and as adults, it’s hard to actually believe we are worthy. Compliments are the cherry on our ice cream sundaes of self love.

It seems we give compliments so generously to children, but when did this act of kindess stop for adults? Does it make us feel vulnerable when we open up the door of selflessness in the way of making someone feel better without any personal gain? The world would be a more loving place if grown-ups treated one another with the same kindness we treat children.

Let’s start this weekend: If you think something positive about someone, tell them; simple as that. It can be a stranger who is wearing a cool hat or great pair of shoes. Maybe you have a dear friend who always makes you laugh (have you told them?). The feeling you get, when you see their eyes and smile, will be priceless.

Let’s pay it forward; one compliment at a time.

.“I can live for two months on a good compliment” ~ Mark Twain

43 comments

  1. I've been a little peeved at my husband lately. He's such a good man, but not a good motherer when I am sick and the stomach flu has been reeking havoc on me this week. I've been brittle and snipey with him. Today the sun is shining. The sky is blue and I am feeling better, although I still held onto my bitterness. As he was trying to engage me in conversation, I was answering him in angry cutting tones. But, then I looked up at his hopeful face and realized he just can't deal too well with sick and if that's the worst he's going to give me, I have to let it go. I burst out with, "Look at you. You're so handsome." And he burst into a smile and we hugged and I cried and we stayed there just holding on and all is well on this beautiful day because I chose to be kind. Great, succinct post.

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  2. I think what you said about having hang ups as children and carrying it with us into our adult life. I always thought I was under smart. But apparently not. I never had cinfidence as a child.. some times even now I fall by the way side. I have just read your post and I now know that you are a lovely bright intelligent woman..well done.Indixx

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  3. @ JoannSweetie, you just made my eyes well up!@ ChristineYour blog has been a great find for me. You always have interesting posts and such beautiful photography!P.S. You are also very pretty!Melissa XX

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  4. I told my waitress that she smelled good this morning.Her response: "You know, I always get told this but I can never smell myself so I don't know how I smell."My response back: "Of course people can't smell themselves. That's why people who stink continue to not wear deodorant."I have a feeling I'm going to have to do more work on this complimenting thing. lol.I did make her laugh though.I hope you have a Happy Easter.

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  5. What a great post!! It took me a long time, and years of therapy to learn how to take a compliment with grace. I hear ya on how difficult it can be to feel "good enough". I always make a point of leaving someone feeling better about themselves after being with them. It is so important!!! You, my friend, are amazing in so many ways. I am so glad I "met" you. ((hugs)) to you

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  6. I used to be like that.. when someone pays me a compliment, instead of accepting and thanking them, I go 'nah, nah I'm not like that'… but lately, I'm trying my best to change. To accept the compliments and that I'm worthy of it.Thank you for the great post, happy Easter! 🙂

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  7. What a wonderful and timely post…Sometimes we can totally MAKE someone's day by doing just that…When I was going through counseling after the death of my Dad and my divorce… I told the counselor that I had such a difficult time dealing with compliments…She told me… 'Shoes… accept a compliment for what it is… it's a gift!!!'And it is… so I tend to fight off embarassment… or blushing when someone gives me a compliment… by thanking them… :o)"Pay it forward"… one never goes wrong there!~shoes~

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  8. great post. I also have a problem with accepting compliments. I have a girlfriend that always says, "say Thank you, Kerry." when I try and shrug one off.found you on SITS. I'm impressed.~Kerry

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  9. The best compliment to get is from a stranger because obviously they noticed something about you and liked it enough to talk to a stranger. You know they can't be lying..I'll try to do that tommorrow

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  10. I learned this years ago. A former co-worker was extremely (yet genuinely) complimentary, and I was so drawn to her and liked her so much. It made me want to be the same way. I also have a hard time taking a compliment, but I'm working on it.Stopped by from SITS!

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  11. Christine, I needed one comment (compliment?) really bad, before I got to bed tonight, and you supplied it. Now I could add you to my gratitude list. (Don't know WHY I am really "down" this night.)Anyway, THANK YOU!Oh, you started off this post with: "If you are like me, getting a compliment can make your day." How ABOUT that?

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  12. One of my favorite books is "The 5 Love Languages." My love language is definitely Words of Affirmation. Yes, I can live off a compliment for 2 months, as Mr. Twain said. Living with teenagers is like living through a Word of Affirmation FAMINE!I think you wrote a lovely post today:)

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  13. Yea… i am addicted to compliments.. if i get a comment in my blog, or if i get appreciated @work it means a lot to me…But you must be careful while complimenting kids.. they shouldnt get addicted to it

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  14. This is a fabulous post and a wonderful way to remind us all to do good things every day. I am your newest follower & thanks so much for stopping by my blog!

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  15. p.s. I have an ex that lives in Laguna! We still keep in touch occasionally. He's an attorney, I think his office is in Dana Point (or maybe his new house)?

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  16. Following you over from Trendy Treehouse’s Marketing Monday. I am awful about taking compliments (but I always give when deserved).I am loving and following your blog 🙂

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