I was hanging out in the Twitterverse the other night and read a tweet asking: “Do you have a type?” This tweet came from a professional matchmaker, so I only assume it was for market research. Still, I had to wonder.
When it comes to sexual attraction, is there such as thing as a Type?
I used to be attracted to bad boys, which I think is a direct correlation between my lack of self-esteem at the time and the fact my step-dad was an ass. Perhaps this was a normal stage of teenage rebellion, but I loved breaking rules and the dudes who came with it.
A little later in life I gravitated toward intellect. I dated Gerry who was kind of a social misfit, but a member of Mensa, which I loved. Chalk it up to the fact I was finally out on my own, away from my home town and experiencing new ideologies, but I really dug smart men. I found it sexy when Gerry nailed every category on Jeopardy, when I was still trying to figure out where Louis XIV died in 1715 during the closing credits.
By the time I reached my thirties, I found myself attracted to Metrosexuals. No longer drooling for the cigarette smoking rebels or quirky braniacs, I lusted for a man who knew his way around a well tailored suit and the nearest Banana Republic. The sharper, the better. And if he smelled as fresh as he looked, I was a goner.
My love life seemed to shock everyone I knew when I turned 40. I dated Kevin, a transgendered man (born female, has transitioned to male). Those who know me well, know I’ve dipped in the lady pond during my party years as a stripper, but even this was surprising. What I fell for in Kevin was his loving heart and kindness beyond measure.
Every person I was with was part of an amazing journey to myself; major lessons were learned and I am thankful for the experiences. But who the hell am I attracted to now? I’d like to think a little piece of my dating past had weaved its way in to the fabric of my Sexy Barometer today.
I am drawn to someone who:
- Lives with conviction (the modern day bad boy)
- Is witty (nothing sexier than a smart, funny man)
- Takes care of himself (I still melt when I see a well dressed man)
- Has character (someone who does the right thing, even when no one is watching)
I won’t get in to chemistry, because who the hell knows why we are drawn to one person versus another when it comes to naked play time.
So there you have it. I guess I do have a type. Mr-Well-Dressed-Witty-Nice-Guy-With-An-Edge.
7 thoughts on “Sexy is as Sexy does: Is there such a thing as Type?”
I would qualify for two out of four.leaving you guessing!
Witty nice guy?
Intelligent, great sense of humor, professional and decease free…..either sex.Big freakin' turn on.
Almost every guy I've ever dated has been different than every other guy. For the longest time I thought maybe I didn't have a type at all. Then I started doing yearly lists detailing who I am and what I wanted out of a partner (here is 2011's: http://trixieracerblog.blogspot.com/2011/01/me-my-ideal-partner-2011.html). From these lists, I now see I definitely have a type. It isn't related to looks–it goes more to the core of who a person is.
So… I'm thinking anonymous thinks he's immortal? As to your question: who wants to be typecast?
@Anonymous – The sense of humor is a must!@Trixie – Oh, I will have to read your post and page. Thanks for stopping by. @IT – That's exactly why I am asking the question – I don't think anyone is typecasting on conscious level. But it does seem we gravitate to similar types of people with similar character traits.