Complimentary Kindness

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If you are like me, getting a compliment can make your day. Who doesn’t love it when they hear that color looks great on you, I love your shoes, or you’re a great cook?

For some of us, taking a compliment is not as easy as one may think. Emotional baggage and self deprecating thoughts are fun.

I am learning to take a compliment after years of thinking I was never enough. You know the feeling – when you are a teenager and feel like you are not pretty enough… strong enough… smart enough. Some of us never shake that off and as adults, it’s hard to actually believe we are worthy. Compliments are the cherry on our ice cream sundaes of self love.

It seems we give compliments so generously to children, but when did this act of kindess stop for adults? Does it make us feel vulnerable when we open up the door of selflessness in the way of making someone feel better without any personal gain? The world would be a more loving place if grown-ups treated one another with the same kindness we treat children.

Let’s start this weekend: If you think something positive about someone, tell them; simple as that. It can be a stranger who is wearing a cool hat or great pair of shoes. Maybe you have a dear friend who always makes you laugh (have you told them?). The feeling you get, when you see their eyes and smile, will be priceless.

Let’s pay it forward; one compliment at a time.

.“I can live for two months on a good compliment” ~ Mark Twain

Christine Macdonald

You tell me: Opinion or judgment?

It’s no secret we bend the truth with our loved ones in the name of kindness. Some will call this tact, while most people say they are saving an argument. But what about strangers; people sharing public space with us? Every day we witness all types of different people roaming the streets.

When it comes to people we don’t know who dance to a different drummer, some of us can get caught up in the Judgment Game.

I recently asked author and spiritual guru Deepak Chopra the question: What is the difference between opinion and judgment? His answer was simple: Moral self righteousness (I know. Deep, right?)

If you stop to think about it, the line between opinion and judgment can sometimes be blurry at best. I try hard not to judge people but it’s a constant exercise in compassion and love out there in the big world of eccentricities. One trip to WallMart I’m busting inside having swallowed so many words. Wait. Did I just make a judgment on WallMart? See what I mean.

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So how about you – do you judge? Are you judged?

What about opinions – how watered down does your truth get when pouring from the heart?

Christine Macdonald