Be your own Trending Topic

What did we do before Facebook Friends, Blog Pages and Twitter Followers?

Social networking can be a great way to communicate with friends, share family photos, promote your business and even re-connect with childhood crushes.

This computerized community can also be nothing more than a popularity game.

In today’s techno savvy world of top-this and ranked-that, it’s easy to get caught up in the dodge-ball syndrome of likeability anxiety.

A natural part of our psyche as human beings is wanting to be accepted, liked and to some, even popular.

The problem with virtual reality is that we often equate not being followed or favortited as something personal; it really isn’t. Not remembering that can feel like high school all over again.

When I worked at Studio 54 (strip club in Hawaii, not Disco in New York), I posted a sign I typed up after learning this phrase in therapy: “When people say no, don’t take it personally”. Pretty heavy for a coked-up stripper with daddy issues.

Halloween, 1993 (yes, that’s my real hair) Do you see the sign on the left?
No matter what your career, blog rank or even Facebook friend numbers are – remember not to be caught up in the hype
If you lose a follower, what does that say about you? Nothing. In the grand scheme of things, how many followers you have is not important. What’s important is that you don’t stop following you.
Appreciate readers and cherish (on and off-line) friends. Be your own trending topic. That way and no matter what the cyber-gadgets say, you will always come out on top.

“We are all primary numbers divisible only by ourselves” ~Jean Guitton
Christine Macdonald


I feel more exposed writing about my skin these past two days than I ever have strutting on stage naked.

Each word is a delicate layer of my mask being lifted. The more I write, the brighter the bulb.

Stripping was an amazing ride, but having the normal life I was longing for years outweighs it all. I am finally leveled in the balance of self-acceptance and it feels amazing.

How about you? Any regrets…reliefs? Do you have any parts of a mask you want to shed or have left behind?

“To be nobody but yourself in a world that is doing its best to make you just like everybody else means to fight the greatest battle there is to fight and to never stop fighting.” — E. E. Cummings


Christine Macdonald